I am stunned each time I learn that someone I know and admire does not believe or accept the existence of white privilege. Not men who lack empathy, intelligence or discernment skills – but brilliant men. One a doctor specializing in children- One, a life coach who teaches wellness, fitness, conservation, and modalities of healing and consciousness. Another, a friend and highly accomplished colleague. None of whom comprehend White Privilege within the world they see around them. And each of whom otherwise carry integrity and honesty worthy of modeling. How does this occur?
It is invariably white males who cannot see the privilege with which their lives have patently and unerringly endowed. Particularly those who have worked hard, or see evidence of poverty among white people – both of which become argument against having inherited any benefit in any form, above or by way of others. But mostly, it presents as though we can’t accept the accountability that exists in the admission that America’s opportunity-bearing wealth has been built upon the backs of people of color and the free labor their exploitation, servitude and enslavement bore.
What would we better resolve with our undue enrichment, by generational depletion of families and communities who have been denied the same opportunity for accumulation of wealth, self determination and education. Where do we place it, but in its own saving grace of denial. A right of denial, which is only afforded us through the very means of privilege being denied.
Why is this, and how is this possible – that otherwise compassionate men would choose not to learn our history and our responsibilities to it? I can tell you why and how. It is designed this way. Other than those who knowingly perpetuate privilege and false supremacy, there is another category. The category of ignorance. It is this simple.
Privilege depends upon your not being aware
Of the things that do not happen to you
Because of inherent access you are not denied
Types according to stopbullying.gov
Verbal Bullying – Physical Bullying – Social Bullying
Although there is certainly cross-over between the types of bullying and even the ages in which they are prevalent – basically it is perpetrated in life stages.
10 years old and under is usually the Verbal Bullying– This takes the form of name calling, and it looks like this – This is called ‘playground warfare’
11 years old and through mid-to-late teens is usually the Physical Bullying – This takes the form of hurtful contact and looks like this- This is called ‘beating someone up’
20 years old through well past middle age is usually the Social Bullying – This takes the form of social engagement and looks like this – This is called ‘gossip’
The first can be turned around with intercession and parental guidance – They know they are doing the wrong thing – they can be reached … they will want to change.
The second type can also be turned around with intercession and parental guidance – they can be reached and often grow out of it – have remorse and even reach out to those they have harmed.
The third type can seldom be turned around with intercession or growth. Usually they are unable to comprehend the damage they do, though are often found disapproving of the first two types.